Look at these example sentences from Unit 92:
- The woman who lives next door is a doctor. (or The woman that lives ... )
The woman lives next door. who (= the woman) is the subject - Where is the cheese that was in the fridge? (or the cheese which was ... )
The cheese was in the fridge. that (= the cheese) is the subject
You must use who/that/which when it is the subject of the relative clause. So you cannot say
'The woman lives next door is a doctor' or 'Where is the cheese was in the fridge?'.
Sometimes
who/
that/
which is the
object of the verb. For example:
- The woman who I wanted to see was away on holiday.
I wanted to see the woman.
who (= the woman) is the object
I is the subject - Have you found the keys that you lost?
You lost the keys.
that ( = the keys) is the object
you is the subject.
When
who/
that/
which is the object, you can leave it out. So you can say:
- The woman I wanted to see was away. or The woman who I wanted to see ...
- Have you found the keys you lost? or ... the keys that you lost?
- The dress Lisa bought doesn't fit her very well. or The dress that Lisa bought ...
- Is there anything I can do? or ... anything that I can do?
Note that we say:
the keys you lost (not the keys you lost them)
the dress Lisa bought (not the dress Lisa bought it)
Note the position of prepositions (in/to/for etc.) in relative clauses:
Tom is talking to a woman - do you know her?
→ Do you know the woman (who/that) Tom is talking to ?
I slept in a bed last night - it wasn't very comfortable
→ The bed (that/which) I slept in last night wasn't very comfortable.
- Are these the books you were looking for? or ... the books that/which you were ...
- The woman he fell in love with left him after a month. or The woman who/that he ...
- The man I was sitting next to on the plane talked all the time. or The man who/that I was sitting next to ...
Note that we say:
the books you were looking for (not the books you were looking for them)
You cannot use
what in sentences like these (see also Unit 92D):
- Everything (that) they said was true. (not Everything what they said)
- I gave her all the money (that) I had. (not all the money what I had)
What = the thing(s) that:
- Did you hear what they said? (= the things that they said)